Let us follow the Scripture, "Distribution was made to each according as anyone had need" (Acts 4:35). By this we do not mean that there should be respecting of persons (which God forbid), but consideration for infirmities. She who needs less should thank God and not be discontented; but she who needs more should be humbled by the thought of her infirmity rather than feeling important on account of the kindness shown her. Thus all the members will be at peace. Above all, let not the evil of murmuring appear for any reason whatsoever in the least word or sign. If anyone is caught at it, let her be placed under very severe discipline.

My adult children have not yet undertaken a critique of my parenting. When they do, my repeating refrain of "justice not fairness" will almost certainly be near the top of the list.

Our sense of fairness is clearly innate. Recent studies have found that some animals recognize fairness and unfairness. Difference of treatment has obvious ethical implications. Our sense of fairness arises from our sense of self.

The distinction between being self-absorbed or being self-fulfilled is often a matter of context. Do we notice the needs of others? Are we attentive to our relationship with others? Can we distinguish between what we need and what we want? Am I ready to forsake some of what I want for what others need?